We have welcomed Paige as our new office manager here at Helping Hands! She has shared some of her experience as being a mother of a special needs child and some advice for other parents as well. Take a look!
“As a mother of a son with special needs, I think the best thing I have to offer other parents as well as therapists is my ability to listen. I enjoy having conversations with other parents about our struggles and the accomplishments that our kids have made through therapy. As parents of children on the spectrum we understand that not every child is the same, but it is important to feel as though you have a friend who is going through some of the same hardships as you, and having someone there to listen to your concerns and frustrations, without casting any judgement is one of the best things you can have. Everyone needs to vent. I strive to make myself available to listen and give input where it is needed every day. After a hard session or even a session where a child has accomplished a goal they have been working on for months, the therapists need someone they can vent to, or give praise, too, and I hope I am able to be that person for them in between clients. I hope I can share with other families that admitting your child needs a little extra help doesn’t mean you have failed as a parent, it means that you love your child enough to do whatever it takes to give them the resources and tools they need to achieve the life they deserve.
My son was just diagnosed as being on the spectrum 2 weeks ago, so I am still learning to understand his diagnosis and what resources are out there for families like ours. We noticed our son was behind in hitting his milestones at a very young age (6 months), and even though we were initially scared of the words autistic and special needs and thought, “no that can’t be our perfect little boy”, we decided then and there that we would do whatever it took for our son to live his best life. I love taking him to the pool, or the splash pad. He loves water, and the joy that he feels while in the water makes everything worth it. To see that big cheesy smile and his “happy arms” makes every worry or concern I have for him magically disappear, for that moment. We also love playing “ball”. He loves to sit on the floor and roll the ball back and forth with me. His giggles and smiles bring me so much joy, it’s my favorite part of the day. My son has so many amazing qualities, there is no way I could choose only one. I have learned so much from him in his short 2 years. I love his innocence, I hope he is able to hold on to a piece of that throughout his life. He has a very caring heart, and has just recently started giving us kisses and hugs. And I love his ability to make me smile no matter what is going on or challenge we are facing. His personality is one of a kind and another one of my favorite qualities he possesses. Overall he is an amazing kid, and I cannot wait to see where the future leads us.”